Desire is our life force.
Often, we experience desire as a force outside of ourselves; a power we can't control. This can make it hard to trust our desires.
Often, we desire things that our conscious mind doesn’t approve of. We worry about how our desires might cause problems in our lives. Letting our desires run free might disrupt our stability, or might offend people we love.
But desire really comes from a bigger part of ourselves, a part that’s usually unconscious.
And like all parts, desires have the best, most gorgeous intentions for us—even desires that we think of as “bad”.
The good news is, we don’t have repress our desires or risk getting steamrolled by them. We can be in relationship with them, getting in touch with our life force and unlocking powerful reserves of energy.
Being in relationship with desire is like being in relationship with any other being. Desire isn’t static; it changes as we greet it, listen to it, and talk to it.
Because it’s a relationship, I don't believe there is a strict formula for working with desire. But there are relational and embodied skills we can use.
If you’re feeling the uncomfortable, urgent, restless call of a big, heart’s desire that you’re not quite sure what to do with, I would love to work with you.
Desire Sessions
How I Work:
Maybe you don't know how a desire would fit into your life. Maybe you’re scared it might ruin everything. Maybe you don't know what form it wants to take. Maybe you just want dedicated space to engage with your desire and craft a home for it in the world.
In these sessions, we’ll listen to your desire. We’ll identify where the desire lives in your body, and move through a process of working with images and sensations that arise in response. We’ll work on the relationship between the desire and other parts of you, creating a space for the desire to show up in your life in a way that you can approve of. We’ll build skills for being with your desire that you can use outside the sessions.
I’ve spent a long time tuning these skills, combining embodiment and parts work that I’ve learned from others with my own unique spin that comes from deep commitment to experimenting, being curious, and listening to my desires.
Please be aware that I am not a therapist, and while I have the tools and ability to help you hold intense emotions, these sessions are not meant to be used as a substitute for therapy!
Session Options:
Single Session
Great for desires that you don’t have too much resistance around, or if you just want someone help you get to know a desire, give you space to develop trust, and give you some tools to use beyond the session.
$60
5-Session Package
Great for “bigger” desires that may take longer to express or that you know you have lots of complex feelings about. We’ll have the space to think more strategically about how this desire could be expressed in your life and work more fully through resistances and objections.
$50 per session, $250 total
If we start with a single session, you can always decide you want to keep working with me afterwards! I’ll apply the higher price of the single session as a discount on the 5-session package.
Testimonials
"My desire session with Grace was illuminating and clarifying to say the least. It helped me gain insight into the WHY of what I wanted, which helped me to create a map for my future actions. Grace will help you connect with the core of the desire that is presenting itself, and as you are present together with that desire, you feel it open up more and more. It helped me to match my desire with the kind of action I want to be taking. Highly recommend it!"
“Getting to do a session with Grace, for me, felt like doing the Hard Work with the best kind of support. They created a trusting, shame-free environment to truly explore a specific desire I have for my life: the joyful parts, the tensions, the grief, and how I might relate to all of those things moving forward. Grace is insightful, patient, and intuitive, and in just an hour helped guide me toward a greater sense of trust in myself.”
"Working with Grace over a longer run of sessions helped me to create and deepen a practice of listening to what my desires were trying to say outside of a framework of intellectualization and judgement. Circling back to body work session after session left me more able to tap into my feelings, and trust in the wisdom of what my body and my desires already know.
Grace’s approach was supportive and open: they allowed me to guide the theme of the session, and provided space and time for me to arrive at interpretations that were meaningful to me. They were especially wonderful at navigating moments where something felt blocked or difficult to access, helping me to reinterpret these “stumbles” as positive parts of the process of learning about desire.
At the end of these sessions, I feel like I have a deeper and more compassionate awareness of my desires in life, and how I can navigate them more authentically."
"Grace’s desire session was challenging and fun— the unique experience of putting myself in a more intuitive relationship with my most profound but inarticulate wants opened new doors for me, intellectually and emotionally and practically.”